Dealing with intimidating employees
Many people feel that an abusive boss has control of their personal life outside of work by lowering their self-esteem and making them live in constant fear.
The role of a supervisor sometimes attracts certain controlling-type personalities because they crave the power it gives them and because they lack such control in their own personal lives.
Everyone likes a pat on the back for good behavior, so you should strive to watch for good behaviors from your supervisor and compliment them on that. If you choose to stay with a toxic employer, then document everything.
Proactive praising is much more effective than reactive criticisms. This will become your main ammunition should a complaint ever be filed down the road. Get into the habit of leaving work at home and not bringing it into your personal life because that will only add to your level of stress.
Document interactions with them as well as your own activities so that you can remind them of your own achievements at performance review time. Keep your professional life separate from your personal life as best as you can.
This also includes having friends who you don’t work with so that you can detach yourself from your work life rather than bringing it home with you.
Going straight up the chain of command is not an effective way of dealing with a difficult supervisor because it only increases conflict in the workplace.
Don’t label them as being a jerk--just merely label them as your boss.A supervisor has complete control over your most basic human needs—your ability to put food on the table and a roof over your head.These are powerful motivating factors that allow a difficult supervisor to control people out of fear of losing these basic needs.Tristan Loo is an experienced negotiator and an expert in conflict resolution.He uses his law enforcement experience to train others in the prinicples of defusing conflict and reaching agreements.